
The age-old adage of something old, something new, something borrowed,
something blue, and (sometimes) a six-pence in your shoe-is an
old
English
rhyme.
Something old-signifies continuity, something new-signifies
optimism
in the future, something borrowed, signifies future happiness and
something
blue, signifies modesty, fidelity and love. Both the bride and
groom
usually wore a band of blue material around the bottom of the wedding
attire, hence the tradition "something blue". Originally
the sixpence
was
presented to the bride by her future husband as a token of his
love.
Today,
it is the bride's father who places a coin in the bride's shoe
prior to
leaving home for the church.
Garter and the bouquet toss-
In parts of Europe during the 14th century, having a piece of the
bride's
clothing was thought to bring good luck. Guests would literally
destroy
the
bride's dress by ripping off pieces of fabric. In order to prevent
this,
brides began throwing various items to the guests-the garter belt
being
one
of the items.
In order to avoid ruining her dress, it became customary in the
14th
century
for the bride to toss her garter to the men. Sometimes the men
would
get
drunk, impatient, and try to remove the garter ahead of time. With
that,
the custom evolved for the groom to remove and toss the garter
and the
bride started to toss the bouquet to the unwed girls-the one who
catches it is thought to be the next to wed.
Why it became bad luck for the groom to see the bride before
the ceremony
Brides used to be considered property of their father. Their futures
(and husbands) were arranged without their consent. The marriage
of
an unattractive woman was often arranged with a prospective
groom
from another town without either of them having ever seen their
prospective spouse.
In more than one instance, when the groom saw his future wife,
usually dressed in white, for the first time on the day of the
wedding,
he would
change
his mind and left the bride at the altar. To prevent this from
happening, it became "bad luck" for the groom to see
the bride on the day of the wedding prior to the ceremony. Brides
also began
wearing
veils.
Threshold
Traditionally, the bride had to enter her new home the first time
through the front door. If she tripped or stumbled while entering
it was
considered to be very bad luck. Hence the tradition of the
groom
carrying
the bride over the threshold.
Rice
Rice is a thought to be a symbol of fertility-thus tossing it at
the couple as they are leaving their wedding. Wheat, instead of
rice, was thrown in France, figs and dates were thrown in Northern
Africa,
and a combination of coins, dried fruit, and candy was thrown in
Italy.
In some European
countries eggs were thrown!
The toast
Originating from the 16th century, a small piece of bread would
be placed in a goblet of wine. The goblet would be passed from
guest to guest until it reached the person being honored who would
drain the goblet and eat the piece of "toast". Now we
use champagne and we all drain our glasses.
Why a wedding ring?
As far back as literature documents weddings,
the
wedding ring has been in evidence. Some believe the wedding ring
was the
first element of wedding traditions. The circular shape of the
wedding ring
symbolizes never-ending love. Third finger, left hand? It is believed
that
the vein in the third finger of the left hand runs directly to
the heart.
Why does the bride where a veil? Many moons ago it was believed
that a veil
would protect the bride form evil spirits. Today the white veil
is a symbol
of modesty and virginity.
Why does the bride wear white?
In Colonial times a bride often
wore her
"
Sunday best" to her wedding. It was not until the 1840's,
when Queen
Victoria was married in a white wedding gown, that "white
gowns" became the
rage. White is also a symbol of affluence, purity, joy and virginity.
Today,
brides can choose many shades of white, from bright white to champagne.
Why carry flowers? Historically, flowers & herbs have played
a significant
role in the attraction of "good" and/or the warding off
of "evil". Greeks
used ivy for the sign of lasting love. Today, pretty wedding flowers
convey
a message of fertility and enduring love and romance.
Why something old, something new, something borrowed and something
blue?
To
insure a happy and lasting marriage, a bride should carry something
old from
someone who has been married for a long time and something new,
to carry
into her new life. Something borrowed, "borrowed happiness",
something blue,
"
the color blue has been associated with purity and modesty".
A penny in
your shoe, place a penny in your shoe to bring good fortune and
protection
against want.
Why is a white runner used?
The white runner, signifies a pure
pathway into
happiness. Rose petals in the bride's path lead her to a sweet
and plentiful
future. |